The Relationship Rehab

[Eps.65] The One When I Met My Ex After 6 years of No Contact

I debated with myself whether to share this story but it’s such an integral part of my anxious attachment healing journey, I had to. Especially after some encouragement from others who always wondered if they “should” meet up with their ex after a few years of no contact.
So this is my experience meeting up with the ex I thought was “the one who got away”…
DISCLAIMER: This isn’t a gossip episode. It’s about my experience, what I’ve learnt from it, and what it really looks like to meet someone from your past after you’ve done the work to heal anxious attachment, abandonment wounds, and old relationship patterns.
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In this episode, you’ll hear:
✨ The backstory of the relationship I was sure I’d never get over – the one I believed I’d “ruined” with anxious attachment
✨ Why no contact was absolutely essential for both of us (even when I tried to cling to his family + crumbs of connection)
✨ How it felt when he unexpectedly reached out six years later… and why my “full body yes” wasn’t about rekindling romance
✨ The difference between needing closure and being genuinely curious and grounded enough to reconnect
✨ The 3 big realizations I had about detachment.
✨ …and so much more!
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Love, Samantha xx
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[Eps.64] Can We Really Be Friends With Our Ex?

Can we really be friends with our exes?
Spoiler: there’s no black-and-white answer… but there are some very clear red and green flags.
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In this episode, we talk about:
✨ Whether we can really be friends with our ex… or are we just clinging to crumbs?
✨ The BIG red flags that friendship with an ex is actually keeping you stuck
✨ How anxious attachment shows up as “situationship cosplay” (calling it friendship, still secretly hoping they’ll come back)
✨ The avoidant ex who “feels safer” as just friends – and how that can mess with your head
✨ My personal stories about being friends with MY exes
✨ Green flags for when friendship with an ex can actually work
✨ How to use your body (not your fantasy) as your compass for what’s right for you
✨ Why choosing space and no contact is not immature – it’s self-respect
✨ …and so much more!
➡️ Leave a comment and let me know your biggest takeaway from this episode – are you team “friends with exes” or team “block and bless”? 👀
Love,
Samantha xx
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[Eps. 63] The Truth About Anxious–Avoidant Relationships: Can They Actually Work? with Rebecca & Pablo Webster

If you’ve ever been stuck in the push–pull with an avoidant partner and wondered, “Is this actually fixable, or am I just torturing myself?”… this episode is the reality check (and hope) you’ve been needing.
In this conversation, I’m joined by Rebecca and Pablo from Connection Counseling – a formerly anxious–avoidant couple who not only stayed together, but did the deep work to become secure in themselves and in their marriage.
Rebecca opens up about her experience as an anxiously attached partner, raised by an avoidant mother and unconsciously repeating that pattern in love. Pablo shares honestly from the avoidant side – the shutdowns, the urge to flee, the shame, the rock bottom moment, and what finally made him choose to change.
Together, we explore the real truth about anxious–avoidant relationships:
✨ When they can work
✨ When they absolutely shouldn’t
✨ And what it actually takes for both partners to move toward secure attachment.
If this episode hits home and you’re ready to start healing your own anxious attachment, I’ve created a free guide to help you take your first steps:
👉 Download: The Anxious Heart’s Guide to Healing Anxious Attachment
➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!
Love, Samantha xx
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Website: connection-counselling.ca
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/connectioncounselling.ca/
YouTube Channel: @ConnectionCounselling
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[Ep. 62] From Toxic Relationship to Thailand: The Breakup That Became My Breakthrough

In this deeply personal episode, I’m taking you all the way back to my first love, my most toxic relationship, and the breakup that completely shattered my world… and eventually led me to booking a one-way ticket to Thailand, which completely transformed my life.
I share the real story I usually “brush over” when people ask, “So what brought you to Thailand?” — the emotional rollercoaster of an 8-year codependent relationship with an avoidant partner, the red flags I ignored, the moment I finally said “enough,” and how that pain became the portal to the biggest breakthrough of my life.
I share this story with those who are stuck in toxic relationships, terrified to leave, or trying to rebuild their lives after a breakup. I want you to know that you are not alone and to inspire hope in your broken heart that this painful chapter of your life is about to crack you open.
In this episode, I talk about:
Meeting my first love at 15 and how our “obsessive teenage romance” slowly turned into codependency
The early red flags I ignored
How I lost myself completely and made him my whole world
The emotional abuse that chipped away my self-worth
The exact moment I knew I had to leave and how I actually found the courage to end it
The aftermath: depression, anxiety, social anxiety, and rebuilding myself piece by piece
How solo travel, self-love, and spiritual connection led me to a completely new identity
The nudge from God that led to Thailand and why I never looked back
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Love, Samantha xx
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[Eps.61] Breaking Free from a Trauma Bond: How Cara Ended A Toxic Relationship & Found Self Love

If you’re stuck in a trauma bond or a toxic/abusive relationship, and you’ve tried to leave many times but feel trapped in the cycle, this deeply personal and vulnerable episode is for you. I co-created this episode with one of my clients, Cara*, to share her story of courage, healing, and freedom. Over the past 8 weeks, I’ve had the privilege of coaching Cara as she worked to leave her abusive relationship, heal her heart, and reclaim the worthiness, love, and autonomy that had been stripped from her over the last 3 years. In this episode, you’ll hear Cara’s full journey—from the moment she came to me desperate for help, to 8 weeks later when she finally broke free from the trauma bond and discovered self-love and freedom. TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains discussions of emotional abuse and toxic trauma bonds. For more information about the 16 week 1:1 program: To apply for the program and get a free consultation call: ➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode! Love, Samantha xx *Cara is a pseudonym and not her real name. --- If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate, review & share this podcast. And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver --- **Freebies:** Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/healing-anxious-attachment Anxious to Anchored Masterclass: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/anxious-to-anchored --------------------------------------------- **Workshops & Courses** 1:1 Coaching Program: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/coaching Website: [www.samireedcoaching.com](http://www.samireedcoaching.com/) - -------------------------------------------- **SOCIAL MEDIA:** Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver

[Eps.60] From Golden Child to Scapegoat: Healing from Toxic Family Dynamics & Estrangement (with Lauren Smallcomb)

This episode is for anyone navigating toxic, narcissistic, or dysfunctional family systems — especially if you’ve become estranged or are considering going no contact with your family.
I’m honoured to welcome Lauren Smallcomb to the podcast as she courageously shares her story of going from the golden child to the scapegoat after questioning her family’s toxic dynamics and oppressive religious and political beliefs.
This is a powerful story of bravery, rejection, and self-liberation — about what it really takes to stand in your truth, even when that means walking away from the people who raised you.
“Golden Child” is Lauren’s memoir that details the collapse of illusory goodness within a family system through the disruption of Christian Nationalism, ultimately leading the token golden child to walk out of her gilded golden cage. Through an arduous journey with grief and wonder, Lauren courageously unravels from fundamentalism and steps into her authentic and free self.
In this episode, we talk about:
✨ Lauren’s “downfall” from the golden child to the black sheep of the family
✨ Healing from religious trauma and reclaiming spiritual freedom
✨ What it feels like to be estranged or no contact with your family
✨ Why you can’t change your parents — and what to do instead
✨ What it truly means to be the family scapegoat ✨ How to navigate and heal from narcissistic family systems
➡️ **Leave a comment below** and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!
Love, Samantha xx
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[Eps.59] Life Update: What I’m Learning About Self Love After A Breakup & Burnout

Grab a cuppa and join me for a heart-to-heart chat about LIFE. In this episode, I’m sharing with you some of the challenges and lessons I’ve been moving through and the amazing gifts that God gives when we truly let go, surrender and detach from things we are clinging onto so tightly. For me, it was my business and the vision I had for my last relationship... In this episode, we talk about: ✨ How difficult it can be to let go of control ✨ What happens when we finally surrender it all to God ✨ Why prioritising your peace is the ultimate act of self love ✨ How to start healing from breakups and burnout ✨ … and so much more! ➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode! Love, Samantha xx --- If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate & share this podcast. And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver --- *Freebies:* Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/healing-anxious-attachment Anxious to Anchored Masterclass: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/anxious-to-anchored --------------------------------------------- *Workshops & Courses* 1:1 Coaching Program: www.samireedcoaching.com/coaching Website: www.samireedcoaching.com - -------------------------------------------- *SOCIAL MEDIA:* Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver

[Eps. 58] Scared to Start Dating Again? 5 Ways to Protect Your Peace

Have you been burnt in relationships in the past, worked so hard on re-building yourself and now you feel resistant, even scared to start dating again because you don’t want to lose the peace you’ve worked so hard to build?
You’ve healed, you’ve found your rhythm, you finally feel good… and even though deep down, you really want a relationship, the thought of ghosting, rejection, or falling back into familiar patterns of getting too attached too fast makes you wonder: “Is it worth the risk?”
If that sounds like you, this episode is going to help you get that dream relationship you desire AND protect your peace.
Inside this episode, we go through:
✨ Why risk is a natural part of every meaningful reward (including love)
✨ How to build resilience so rejection doesn’t derail you
✨ Practical boundaries to avoid burnout and premature attachment
✨ The importance of reset rituals to stay grounded after disappointments
✨ The role of detachment in dating — and how it actually creates more peace, not less
💫 Ready to go deeper? Join my free workshop on September 23rd: Master the Art of Detachment. You’ll learn how to stop spiraling over mixed signals, release the anxiety that comes with dating, and open yourself to love without losing your peace: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/secure-woman-era
➡️ Leave a comment on this podcast and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!
Love, Samantha xx
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[Eps 57.] “Love Isn’t Luck — It’s Logic! Here’s How to Choose a Relationship That Actually Lasts (using Maths!)” with Zoey Charif

What if love isn’t magic at all—but math? In today’s conversation with Zoe Charif, we explore how to redefine love as something we can actually calculate. Zoe challenges the romanticized idea that love is about soulmates and destiny, and instead gives us the code for choosing a relationship that truly lasts. We dive into attachment styles, modern dating complexities, and whether compatibility can be created—not just found. If you’ve ever wondered if there’s a smarter way to approach love, you’ll want to hear this.
In this episode, we talk about:
✨ How we can figure out if our relationship will last using Zoe’s formula
✨ Why relationships are not as ‘spiritual’ as we think
✨ How to use the tool to stop falling into unhealthy relationships
✨ How to use the tool to help you overcome a breakup
✨ Whether we can create compatibility or is it just ‘found’ in our perfect match?
✨ …and so much more!
➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!
Love, Samantha xx
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[Eps. 56] Is He Avoidant — or Just Not Into You? The Honest Answer You Need to Hear

We’ve all been there: replaying texts, analyzing his mixed signals, and wondering… Is he avoidant, or does he just not like me that much?
In this episode, I’m breaking down the difference anxious women need to know. I’ll share the truth about avoidant attachment (hint: it’s not as obvious on day one as the internet makes it seem) and why chasing someone who’s inconsistent is really about your own attachment wounds — not about fixing him.
If you’ve ever felt stuck in the cycle of overanalyzing, self‑abandoning, and trying to “win back” the early version of a guy who seemed so invested… this episode is your wake‑up call.
The honest answer will set you free — so you can stop spinning in anxiety and start raising your standards.
👉 Ready to break the cycle of overthinking and chasing? Grab my free guide The High‑Achiever’s Heart’s Guide to Healing Anxious Attachment below to start calming your nervous system and attracting secure love.
➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!
Love, Samantha xx
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