The Relationship Rehab

[Eps.70] From Party Girl to Sober Dating: Exploring Sobriety, Healing Anxious Attachment and Embodied Confidence with Sophia Graniela

I’m excited to be joined by Sophia for a real, honest conversation about sobriety, anxious attachment, and what it’s actually like to date without using alcohol as a confidence crutch.
If you’ve ever felt like you need a drink to relax on a date, to feel “fun,” to be more open, or to handle the intensity of your own emotions… you’re going to feel very seen in this episode! Sophia shares her journey to sobriety, the identity shift that came with it, and how getting sober didn’t take her life away, it actually gave her more clarity, confidence, boundaries, and a deeper connection to herself.
Whether you’re sober-curious, healing anxious attachment, or just tired of abandoning yourself in dating… this episode is for you.
In this episode, we cover:
Sophia’s turning point moment that led her to sobriety (and why breakups can be the catalyst)
How alcohol can create a false sense of confidence, connection, and intimacy
The fear of “who am I without drinking?” and the grief of letting go of the party-girl identity
What sober dating actually looks like and how people’s reactions reveal instant red flags
How anxious attachment shows up when you’re sober (and what changes when you stop numbing)
Why sobriety can help you follow through on boundaries instead of self-abandoning
The “mirror moment” of dating someone anxiously attached and how it can heal your past self
About Sophia
Sophia Graniela is the podcast host of Her Journey Home, a storyteller, and an EFT tapping practitioner devoted to the art of sharing your truth. She explores sobriety, reclaiming your 30s, and the messy, courageous work of becoming yourself. Her work centers on helping women release fear, reconnect to their voice, and remember that their story holds power.
Connect with Sophia
Her Journey Home Podcast
Instagram: @sophiagraniela
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Love, Samantha xx
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[Eps.69] Anxiety vs Intuition: Surrendering & Trusting God When Life Feels Uncertain

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a deeply personal life transition and the powerful lessons I’m learning when it comes to finally listening to our intuition, releasing control and surrendering to God, even when things feel uncertain.
Whether you’re questioning a relationship, a job, or a place you’ve outgrown, this conversation will help you understand the difference between anxiety and intuition, and how to access clarity when you feel stuck.
In this episode, we cover:
Why I’ve been taking time off and the “big adult decision” I’ve been sitting with
The feeling of being “stuck” on a soul level (even when life looks fine on paper)
How fear shows up loud and urgent and why intuition is quiet, gentle, and steady
Why anxious attachment can override your inner knowing in relationships
The difference between emotion (nervous system activation) and feeling (deep inner truth)
The role of grief when you choose alignment (even when it’s the right choice)
Why “uncertainty” triggers anxiety and how faith helps you tolerate the unknown
➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!
Love, Samantha xx
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[Eps.68] Divorce Was the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me: Becoming Financially Free, Solo Travel & the Glow Up After Heartbreak (with Clover Lam)

In this episode, Samantha sits down with Clover — a divorce money coach and creator of The Divorce Glow Up, to talk about the thing so many women go through when facing divorce: financial dependence and worries.
Clover shares her own story of moving countries for her marriage, losing financial footing, and facing the terrifying (but transformational) moment of having to rebuild from scratch. Together, they explore how financial fear keeps women stuck in relationships, why “I can’t afford to leave” often needs clarity (not shame), and how rebuilding self-trust is the real glow-up.
What You’ll Hear in This Episode:
The moment Clover’s intuition warned her… before the divorce even happened
How money becomes a safety issue
The hidden cost of self-sacrifice in relationships
What “Divorce Glow Up” actually means
The #1 fear women carry around money
A practical first step for women who feel financially trapped
Using fear as fuel (instead of letting it freeze you)
Clover Lam is a post-divorce reinvention coach for women. Divorced at 30 and retired at 40, her own journey brought her to understand the complexity of rebuilding life after divorce. Through her signature 8-pillar framework, “The Divorce Glow-Up Roadmap”, she provides practical tools to help women regain confidence, reclaim their identities and rebuild a life that’s true to them. Her holistic approach combines mindset coaching, somatic healing, financial and lifestyle planning to create a one stop shop for women to turn pain into a glow-up.
Clover’s Links:
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Website: http://thedivorceglowup.com
Instagram: http://instagram.com/thedivoreceglowup
The Glow Up Reset: https://www.thedivorceglowup.com/glowupreset
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[Eps.67] This Is Why Dating Again Feels Scary: The Biggest Mistake We Do After A Breakup (& Exciting Announcement!)

You’re about to hear a powerful snippet from my live masterclass “How to Let Go of Your Ex” — and this part is the one everyone needs to hear.
In this clip, I share the most dangerous mistake people make after a breakup (and why it’s a huge reason the dating pool feels so chaotic right now). If you’ve been trying to “move on” by staying busy, staying strong, or jumping back into dating… this episode will land.
Want the full masterclass replay?
The full replay of “How to Let Go of Your Ex” is available for a limited time.
Watch it by January 30 (then it will be taken down).
👉 https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/let-go-of-ex
Ready to go all-in on detachment?
My 30-Day Reset Program: Breakup With Your Breakup is now open.
This is for the person who’s ready to commit to the 4-step detachment process — to release the grip your ex has on your mind, heart, and nervous system… and finally feel lighter, calmer, and confident again.
We start Tuesday, February 3.
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7 Day Breakup Detox Guide: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/detox-checklist
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[Eps.66] Why It Feels Impossible To Let Go Of Your Ex

If your ex is living rent-free in your head (and charging you emotional interest)… this episode is for you.
Whether the breakup was last week or years ago, if you’re stuck in rumination, craving contact, stalking socials, comparing everyone to them, or feeling like you’ve turned into a needy 5-year-old when you’re actually a grown, capable human… I’ve got you my love ❤️
Inside this episode, I break down the 5 biggest reasons it feels so hard to let go from an anxious attachment lens, and what to do so you can finally reclaim your peace.
Grab the resources mentioned in the episode:
➡️ “How to Let Go of Your Ex” FREE Masterclass (Jan 20th)
I’ll walk you through the exact framework I teach to help you start the detachment process so you can stop looping, stop internalising, and start rebuilding your secure self for real.
In this episode, we talk about:
✨ Why you might still be “re-opening the wound” (even if you swear you’re fine) through contact, checking socials, keeping the chat thread, or staying close to their family
✨ How the dopamine breadcrumb loop keeps you addicted to tiny hits of attention… and then spiralling into shame
✨ What’s actually happening when your abandonment wound gets activated and why breakups can feel like survival-level panic
✨ Why “closure” can become a trap when things feel unfinished or confusing (especially after situationships and mixed messages)
✨ How to knock them off the pedestal without revenge spirals and come back to choosing yourself
✨ Why trying to “move on already” can backfire and how to stop rushing the grief
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“How to Let Go of Your Ex” FREE Masterclass (Jan 20th)
The 7Day Breakup Detox Checklist
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Anxious to Anchored Masterclass: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/anxious-to-anchored
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[Eps.65] The One When I Met My Ex After 6 years of No Contact

I debated with myself whether to share this story but it’s such an integral part of my anxious attachment healing journey, I had to. Especially after some encouragement from others who always wondered if they “should” meet up with their ex after a few years of no contact.
So this is my experience meeting up with the ex I thought was “the one who got away”…
DISCLAIMER: This isn’t a gossip episode. It’s about my experience, what I’ve learnt from it, and what it really looks like to meet someone from your past after you’ve done the work to heal anxious attachment, abandonment wounds, and old relationship patterns.
Grab the resources mentioned in the episode here:
➡️ The 7Day Breakup Detox Checklist
➡️ ”How to Let Go of Your Ex” Free Masterclass on Jan 13th.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
✨ The backstory of the relationship I was sure I’d never get over – the one I believed I’d “ruined” with anxious attachment
✨ Why no contact was absolutely essential for both of us (even when I tried to cling to his family + crumbs of connection)
✨ How it felt when he unexpectedly reached out six years later… and why my “full body yes” wasn’t about rekindling romance
✨ The difference between needing closure and being genuinely curious and grounded enough to reconnect
✨ The 3 big realizations I had about detachment.
✨ …and so much more!
➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!
Love, Samantha xx
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[Eps.64] Can We Really Be Friends With Our Ex?

Can we really be friends with our exes?
Spoiler: there’s no black-and-white answer… but there are some very clear red and green flags.
>> Download the 7 Day Breakup Detox Guide HERE.
In this episode, we talk about:
✨ Whether we can really be friends with our ex… or are we just clinging to crumbs?
✨ The BIG red flags that friendship with an ex is actually keeping you stuck
✨ How anxious attachment shows up as “situationship cosplay” (calling it friendship, still secretly hoping they’ll come back)
✨ The avoidant ex who “feels safer” as just friends – and how that can mess with your head
✨ My personal stories about being friends with MY exes
✨ Green flags for when friendship with an ex can actually work
✨ How to use your body (not your fantasy) as your compass for what’s right for you
✨ Why choosing space and no contact is not immature – it’s self-respect
✨ …and so much more!
➡️ Leave a comment and let me know your biggest takeaway from this episode – are you team “friends with exes” or team “block and bless”? 👀
Love,
Samantha xx
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Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/healing-anxious-attachment
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[Eps.63] The Truth About Anxious–Avoidant Relationships: Can They Actually Work? with Rebecca & Pablo Webster

If you’ve ever been stuck in the push–pull with an avoidant partner and wondered, “Is this actually fixable, or am I just torturing myself?”… this episode is the reality check (and hope) you’ve been needing.
In this conversation, I’m joined by Rebecca and Pablo from Connection Counseling – a formerly anxious–avoidant couple who not only stayed together, but did the deep work to become secure in themselves and in their marriage.
Rebecca opens up about her experience as an anxiously attached partner, raised by an avoidant mother and unconsciously repeating that pattern in love. Pablo shares honestly from the avoidant side – the shutdowns, the urge to flee, the shame, the rock bottom moment, and what finally made him choose to change.
Together, we explore the real truth about anxious–avoidant relationships:
✨ When they can work
✨ When they absolutely shouldn’t
✨ And what it actually takes for both partners to move toward secure attachment.
If this episode hits home and you’re ready to start healing your own anxious attachment, I’ve created a free guide to help you take your first steps:
👉 Download: The Anxious Heart’s Guide to Healing Anxious Attachment
➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!
Love, Samantha xx
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Connect with Rebecca & Pablo
Website: connection-counselling.ca
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/connectioncounselling.ca/
YouTube Channel: @ConnectionCounselling
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Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/healing-anxious-attachment
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[Eps.62] From Toxic Relationship to Thailand: The Breakup That Became My Breakthrough

In this deeply personal episode, I’m taking you all the way back to my first love, my most toxic relationship, and the breakup that completely shattered my world… and eventually led me to booking a one-way ticket to Thailand, which completely transformed my life.
I share the real story I usually “brush over” when people ask, “So what brought you to Thailand?” — the emotional rollercoaster of an 8-year codependent relationship with an avoidant partner, the red flags I ignored, the moment I finally said “enough,” and how that pain became the portal to the biggest breakthrough of my life.
I share this story with those who are stuck in toxic relationships, terrified to leave, or trying to rebuild their lives after a breakup. I want you to know that you are not alone and to inspire hope in your broken heart that this painful chapter of your life is about to crack you open.
In this episode, I talk about:
Meeting my first love at 15 and how our “obsessive teenage romance” slowly turned into codependency
The early red flags I ignored
How I lost myself completely and made him my whole world
The emotional abuse that chipped away my self-worth
The exact moment I knew I had to leave and how I actually found the courage to end it
The aftermath: depression, anxiety, social anxiety, and rebuilding myself piece by piece
How solo travel, self-love, and spiritual connection led me to a completely new identity
The nudge from God that led to Thailand and why I never looked back
➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!
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Love, Samantha xx
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[Eps.61] Breaking Free from a Trauma Bond: How Cara Ended A Toxic Relationship & Found Self Love

If you’re stuck in a trauma bond or a toxic/abusive relationship, and you’ve tried to leave many times but feel trapped in the cycle, this deeply personal and vulnerable episode is for you. I co-created this episode with one of my clients, Cara*, to share her story of courage, healing, and freedom. Over the past 8 weeks, I’ve had the privilege of coaching Cara as she worked to leave her abusive relationship, heal her heart, and reclaim the worthiness, love, and autonomy that had been stripped from her over the last 3 years. In this episode, you’ll hear Cara’s full journey—from the moment she came to me desperate for help, to 8 weeks later when she finally broke free from the trauma bond and discovered self-love and freedom. TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains discussions of emotional abuse and toxic trauma bonds. For more information about the 16 week 1:1 program: To apply for the program and get a free consultation call: ➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode! Love, Samantha xx *Cara is a pseudonym and not her real name. --- If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate, review & share this podcast. And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver --- **Freebies:** Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/healing-anxious-attachment Anxious to Anchored Masterclass: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/anxious-to-anchored --------------------------------------------- **Workshops & Courses** 1:1 Coaching Program: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/coaching Website: [www.samireedcoaching.com](http://www.samireedcoaching.com/) - -------------------------------------------- **SOCIAL MEDIA:** Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver