The Relationship Rehab

[Eps.60] From Golden Child to Scapegoat: Healing from Toxic Family Dynamics & Estrangement (with Lauren Smallcomb)

This episode is for anyone navigating toxic, narcissistic, or dysfunctional family systems — especially if you’ve become estranged or are considering going no contact with your family.
I’m honoured to welcome Lauren Smallcomb to the podcast as she courageously shares her story of going from the golden child to the scapegoat after questioning her family’s toxic dynamics and oppressive religious and political beliefs.
This is a powerful story of bravery, rejection, and self-liberation — about what it really takes to stand in your truth, even when that means walking away from the people who raised you.
“Golden Child” is Lauren’s memoir that details the collapse of illusory goodness within a family system through the disruption of Christian Nationalism, ultimately leading the token golden child to walk out of her gilded golden cage. Through an arduous journey with grief and wonder, Lauren courageously unravels from fundamentalism and steps into her authentic and free self.
In this episode, we talk about:
✨ Lauren’s “downfall” from the golden child to the black sheep of the family
✨ Healing from religious trauma and reclaiming spiritual freedom
✨ What it feels like to be estranged or no contact with your family
✨ Why you can’t change your parents — and what to do instead
✨ What it truly means to be the family scapegoat ✨ How to navigate and heal from narcissistic family systems
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Love, Samantha xx
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[Eps.59] Life Update: What I’m Learning About Self Love After A Breakup & Burnout

Grab a cuppa and join me for a heart-to-heart chat about LIFE. In this episode, I’m sharing with you some of the challenges and lessons I’ve been moving through and the amazing gifts that God gives when we truly let go, surrender and detach from things we are clinging onto so tightly. For me, it was my business and the vision I had for my last relationship... In this episode, we talk about: ✨ How difficult it can be to let go of control ✨ What happens when we finally surrender it all to God ✨ Why prioritising your peace is the ultimate act of self love ✨ How to start healing from breakups and burnout ✨ … and so much more! ➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode! Love, Samantha xx --- If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate & share this podcast. And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver --- *Freebies:* Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/healing-anxious-attachment Anxious to Anchored Masterclass: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/anxious-to-anchored --------------------------------------------- *Workshops & Courses* 1:1 Coaching Program: www.samireedcoaching.com/coaching Website: www.samireedcoaching.com - -------------------------------------------- *SOCIAL MEDIA:* Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver

[Eps.58] Scared to Start Dating Again? 5 Ways to Protect Your Peace

Have you been burnt in relationships in the past, worked so hard on re-building yourself and now you feel resistant, even scared to start dating again because you don’t want to lose the peace you’ve worked so hard to build?
You’ve healed, you’ve found your rhythm, you finally feel good… and even though deep down, you really want a relationship, the thought of ghosting, rejection, or falling back into familiar patterns of getting too attached too fast makes you wonder: “Is it worth the risk?”
If that sounds like you, this episode is going to help you get that dream relationship you desire AND protect your peace.
Inside this episode, we go through:
✨ Why risk is a natural part of every meaningful reward (including love)
✨ How to build resilience so rejection doesn’t derail you
✨ Practical boundaries to avoid burnout and premature attachment
✨ The importance of reset rituals to stay grounded after disappointments
✨ The role of detachment in dating — and how it actually creates more peace, not less
💫 Ready to go deeper? Join my free workshop on September 23rd: Master the Art of Detachment. You’ll learn how to stop spiraling over mixed signals, release the anxiety that comes with dating, and open yourself to love without losing your peace: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/secure-woman-era
➡️ Leave a comment on this podcast and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!
Love, Samantha xx
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[Eps.57] “Love Isn’t Luck — It’s Logic! Here’s How to Choose a Relationship That Actually Lasts (using Maths!)” with Zoey Charif

What if love isn’t magic at all—but math? In today’s conversation with Zoe Charif, we explore how to redefine love as something we can actually calculate. Zoe challenges the romanticized idea that love is about soulmates and destiny, and instead gives us the code for choosing a relationship that truly lasts. We dive into attachment styles, modern dating complexities, and whether compatibility can be created—not just found. If you’ve ever wondered if there’s a smarter way to approach love, you’ll want to hear this.
In this episode, we talk about:
✨ How we can figure out if our relationship will last using Zoe’s formula
✨ Why relationships are not as ‘spiritual’ as we think
✨ How to use the tool to stop falling into unhealthy relationships
✨ How to use the tool to help you overcome a breakup
✨ Whether we can create compatibility or is it just ‘found’ in our perfect match?
✨ …and so much more!
➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!
Love, Samantha xx
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Zoey Charif – Author, Entrepreneur, Coach
Love Can In Fact, Be Calculated Book:
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[Eps.56] Is He Avoidant — or Just Not Into You? The Honest Answer You Need to Hear

We’ve all been there: replaying texts, analyzing his mixed signals, and wondering… Is he avoidant, or does he just not like me that much?
In this episode, I’m breaking down the difference anxious women need to know. I’ll share the truth about avoidant attachment (hint: it’s not as obvious on day one as the internet makes it seem) and why chasing someone who’s inconsistent is really about your own attachment wounds — not about fixing him.
If you’ve ever felt stuck in the cycle of overanalyzing, self‑abandoning, and trying to “win back” the early version of a guy who seemed so invested… this episode is your wake‑up call.
The honest answer will set you free — so you can stop spinning in anxiety and start raising your standards.
👉 Ready to break the cycle of overthinking and chasing? Grab my free guide The High‑Achiever’s Heart’s Guide to Healing Anxious Attachment below to start calming your nervous system and attracting secure love.
➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!
Love, Samantha xx
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[Eps.55] Becoming the Woman Who Owns Her Truth in Love & Life - with Confidence Coach Kate House

For all the women who were told that they are ‘too much’ and are ready to own her truth and authority in her love life AND career - buckle up for this amazing, inspiring conversation with Confidence Coach Kate House!
In this episode, we talk about:
✨ What it means to own your truth and authority
✨ How to let go of things we’ve already ‘invested’ so much time and energy in
✨ How to be brave and courageous in the face of rejection
✨ What it means to listen to your intuition and take up space
✨ The importance of a female community
✨ …and so much more! ➡️
Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!
Love, Samantha xx
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[Eps.54] Texting Anxiety: Why Waiting on His Reply Is Triggering Your Anxious Attachment

Let’s talk about the number one source of anxiety I see in dating right now — messaging anxiety. You send a message, he doesn’t reply, you obsessively checking your phone, analyze emojis, and wonder if he’s losing interest. He replies, and the cycle repeats. Exhausting right? In this episode, I’m going to break down why messaging anxiety and waiting on his reply wrecks your nervous system, how this ties back to your attachment style, and what you can do instead.” ➡️ **Leave a comment below** and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode! Love, Samantha xx --- *If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate & share this podcast.* And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: [*www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver*](https://www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver/) --- **Freebies:** Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/healing-anxious-attachment Master The Art of Detachment Masterclass: [**https://www.samireedcoaching.com/secure-woman-era**](https://www.samireedcoaching.com/secure-woman-era) --------------------------------------------- **Workshops & Courses** 1:1 Coaching Program: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/coaching Website: [www.samireedcoaching.com](http://www.samireedcoaching.com/) - -------------------------------------------- **SOCIAL MEDIA:** Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver

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[Eps.53] Being Ignored in Relationships: Stonewalling, Silent Treatment, and When to Walk Away

Stonewalling can feel like torture — and it’s NOT okay.
Let’s sit down with a cuppa and unpack this together. This episode is a replay of a powerful training I originally taught in one of my group programs — and it’s a conversation every human needs to hear if they have ever been shut out, blocked, or emotionally abandoned in a relationship.
In this episode, we explore:
✨ What stonewalling really is — and how it differs from the silent treatment
✨ Why people stonewall in relationships (it’s often a trauma response)
✨ How to repair and navigate it together — if both partners are willing
✨ What to do when they block you or disappear
✨ How to stay grounded when your partner takes space
✨ When it’s time to walk away — for your own peace
✨ …and so much more.
👉 Leave a comment below the episode and let me know your biggest takeaway. I’d love to hear how this landed for you.
With love,
Samantha xx
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[Eps.52] Decoding Shadow Work, The Abandoned Inner Child & Anxious Attachment Archetypes

Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting the same type of partner — or why you become someone else entirely in love? Maybe you’re noticing a lot of self-sabotage in your relationships that’s “not you” or shaming yourself for certain behaviour traits that are driving partners away.
In today’s episode, we’re going to play with the concept of archetypes - the parts of us that show up unconsciously that shape your relationships — the parts of yourself you’ve disowned, hidden, or rejected… and how they might be choosing your relationships for you.”
I break down the 4 anxious attachment archetypes I saw in myself when I anxious attached and I see in my most of my clients: The martyr, the mother, the chameleon and the performer.
I share how these patterns develop, the unconscious fears driving them, and how they sabotage your ability to feel truly loved, safe, and chosen in your relationships.
✨ If you’re ready to break free from these patterns and reconnect with your Secure Woman self — this episode is your starting point.
➡️ Download my brand new eBook "The Anxious Heart’s Guide to Healing Anxious Attachment” to learn my 3-step roadmap to go from anxious to secure — for FREE.
➡️ DM me and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!
Love, Samantha xx
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